“Telling yourself you like the way you look is
easy. Believing it is an entirely different kettle of whales.”
― Andrew Biss, The Impressionists from the short story Big Girl
― Andrew Biss, The Impressionists from the short story Big Girl
I have a friend who has a mirror by her
front door. Every time she goes
out that door, she stops and checks herself in that mirror. But she doesn’t admire herself. She stares, frowns, squints, pulls at
imaginary bumps of clothing. I
imagine she might sometime stick her tongue out and raspberry the image in that
mirror.
I have a problem with mirrors. The image in the mirror is not a
reflection of how I think I look.
I think I still look like I did at 20 years of age! Then I see this lady in the mirror and
I am so disappointed. What happened?
Perhaps mirrors should reflect how we feel at the moment, showing us
what we want to see? Or do we already place a great deal of emotional value on
that image and our moods do change the way we see ourselves?
Thinking of people as mirrors: Do I believe a friend who compliments
me on a particular aspect one day MORE or LESS than I believe the mirror I
looked in before leaving the house?
I know that if I liked the image in the real mirror that day, I am more
likely to be pleased by my friend’s observation. But if I thought the mirror image was ‘less than’ my ideal,
I tend to think my friend is just being nice and trying to make me feel
better. Perspective is everything.
There is an old saying that you have to
love yourself to be able to love others.
I found this blog as I was researching this saying: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/maybe-its-just-me/201004/loving-yourself-how-important-is-it I think that you have to be comfortable
enough with yourself to appreciate the opinions of others. If you are bogged down in
self-loathing, it is very difficult to see anyone else’s light while you are
sitting in the dark.
I'm starting with the man in the mirror
I'm asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you want to make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself then make a change.
I'm asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you want to make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself then make a change.
Michael Jackson, “Man in the
Mirror”
I wonder if Micheal wore his sunglasses when he looked in the mirror? :)
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